60 Days of Little Introspection, Day 10: How do I get out of the Little Space mindset?

Good Morning Friends! 

I hope you all are having a beautiful Wednesday! Around here I am nestled up with a cup of tea surrounded by notes and notebooks ready to dive into today’s topic. In today’s blog post we are going to discuss a common issue that many Littles face: how do you get out of little space once playtime is over and you need to transition back to your adult mindset? Are you ready to explore this topic with me? Then, let’s dive in! 

I. Creating a Gentle Transition Ritual: 

It’s important for you to visualize your “Little Me” or little side as a fragile, sacred part of yourself. This special side of you is a delicate piece of your soul that you are expressing in a safe and healthy way. As such, you will want to show deep respect to your inner little as you transition from little space back into your adult mindset. Over the years there have been many ways that I have switched from my little mindset to my adult mindset. But the common underlying theme is that I have created a ritual to lean into which helps shift me mentally between the two parts of myself. Here are a few ideas to get you thinking about how you want to shift out of little space: 

  • Change into your normal adult clothing from your little attire 

  • Take a soothing shower to “wash” away little space and mentally transition back into your adult mindset. 

  • Pack away your toys or coloring items and shift to a more adult activity

  • Create a to do list that you begin to tackle and achieve after your little space time is over. 

  • Change the music that you’re listening to a genre that won’t trigger you into feeling small. 

  • Watch one of your favorite adult TV shows so you shift your mind into your adult self. 

    II. Establishing Beforehand an Activity to Do After Little Space: 

I am a person who lives and thrives by lists. I nicknamed my mother the “Queen of Lists” and as her child I inherited the ability to multitask well so long as I have my organized lists in hand. That said, one strategy that I use when I have a little space session is to schedule something to do after the play session is done. That way I know beforehand that I will be little for the allotted time, but afterwards I need to move on to the next task at hand. This helps my brain establish a pattern of how it’s going to shift from one stage to the next. 

Now let me pause here for a moment because I want to be frank with all of you. It isn’t always easy to shift in and out of little space. There are times when I am regressed and suddenly my child needs me, and I am yanked out of little space and into “parent mode”. Switching fast between a little mindset and parent mindset can feel jarring and unsettling. Sure, it gets done because we always put our child first, but inside I can feel unsettled and a bit sad. Over time I’ve tried to thwart these instances by scheduling little space with my Daddy, and waiting until after kiddo’s bedtime to ensure that there are minimal interruptions. It’s important that you give yourself plenty of compassion, patience, and understanding as you learn how to move in and out of the little mindset. Be kind to yourself! These are deep, vulnerable emotions that you’re dealing with and you want to nurture yourself every step of the way. Give yourself plenty of time, practice, and patience to learn the methods that best work for you as you move in and out of little space. What works for one person might not work for you and that’s okay. We are all different. In this space I am simply sharing what works for me. By no means is it how you or any other little should come out of being regressed. Take these tips, utilize what works for you, toss what doesn’t, and move on. 

That said, having an activity to do after little space that you’re looking forward to helps tremendously. For me that activity is writing and working on the Little Space League. I absolutely love to work on this company! Not only is it my career that I’m building with my Daddy, but it brings me joy to give back to my community and provide all of you posts, printables, and products that will uplift other Littles! So, sit down and think about an activity that you feel passionate about. Make a sticky note or to-do list of those things and plan to do them after you slip into Little Space. Then once you’re ready to come out of being regressed you have that activity to look forward to. 

III. Establish Mental Exercises That Place Importance on Pausing Little Space, Not Ending It: 

Have you ever been in little space and not wanted to come out of being regressed? Listening to your heart and mind is a great place to begin when examining how you feel moving in and out of the mindset. Think about why you don’t want to come out of being little and honor that feeling. Acknowledge that the feeling is present and sit with it for a moment or two. Do you want to remain in little space because you’re worried about dealing with an adult issue you’re having? Do you want to remain in little space because you feel happier than you do in your adult mindset? Really dive into yourself and take time for introspection. Only you know the true reason why you don’t want to come out of little space. When you’re ready and you’ve figured out the reason, tell your inner little that it’s okay to feel that way. Remain loving and gentle with yourself. Ultimately the goal is to bring a peaceful union to your adult self and your inner little. You will want to be able to slip out of being regressed without feeling sorrow or anxiety of any kind. 

One tip that helps is to begin to establish a mantra with yourself that moving out of little space doesn’t mean that the moment is ending, it is simply being put on pause. Tell yourself over and over: I am moving back into my adult self now. Little space is NOT ending, I am just pressing the pause button. 

Envision yourself placing your little space delicately into a box. Then you’re picking up that box and placing it on a shelf in your mind. It isn’t ending. You’re simply setting the box of little space there while you move on to your adult task, but you know that when you feel anxious and yearn to regress the box is still right there on the shelf. You don’t necessarily need to lift off the lid and regress, but instead you can take comfort in knowing that your inner little is safe and sound right within your grasp. By doing these visualization exercises on a regular basis you can begin to work with your mind to peacefully transition in and out of little space with ease. 

Alright my friends, that’s it for me for this post! I hope you all enjoyed it. If you did, leave a comment and let me know. I’d love to hear from you! Also, please consider joining us by subscribing below and I will see you back here for the next topic! 

Much love, 

~Penny x