60 Days of Little Introspection, Day 16: Tips and Tricks for a Long Distance Cg/l Relationship

Good Evening Friends!

I hope you all are having a wonderful weekend. Tonight I was reflecting with my Daddy on how we were 10 years ago as a long distance couple. He and I were a long distance couple for nearly a year before we decided to move and live together. 9 years later here we are married, happily in love, and proudly out as Daddy and little. Though we have lived together for nearly a decade, we remember distinctly how it felt being a long distance couple. Unlike dating locally, long distance Cg/l relationships present their own set of problems and tonight I am going to give you some tips and tricks to ease the distance. Are you ready? Then, let’s dive in!

I. Expectations, Communication, and Schedules, Oh My!: 

The number one most important thing to work on in a long distance relationship, or any relationship for that matter, is communication. As a long distance couple, how you communicate is the basis of your entire relationship. You can’t reach out and touch your partner, so your words mean everything. Sit down with your partner and discuss what expectations you have for your Cg/l relationship. Do you want to be Cg/l on a full-time basis, part-time basis, or by play session only? What names do you prefer to be called by your partner? How do you handle conflict and stress? What are some triggers that your partner needs to know? What does your typical day to day schedule look like, and how do you plan on having regular contact with your partner? There are many things to think about before you enter a long distance Cg/l relationship. Fortunately Daddy and I have created a Long Distance Cg/l Relationship Contract in our free printables area that will guide you and your partner through the most basic set of questions to discuss together!

Dominants, I encourage you to remember that many Littles are needier than most submissives in the lifestyle. (I’m raising my hand over here because my Daddy knows this story all too well lol). Your little will want you to create a schedule of regular contact that they can depend upon and lean into when they miss you. Have a variety of forms of communication if possible. Texting is great but video chat is better. The more open and willing you are, the happier your little will be. Littles, if your Dominant is going to great lengths to reach out across the miles and communicate with you, thank them! Shower them with love and praise. Good manners go a long way. Cherish the time talking, connecting, and giggling together.

II. Items to Purchase to Ease the Loneliness: 

Let’s face it: loneliness is a major drag in long distance relationships. I remember crying my eyes out a few times because I missed my Daddy so much when we lived apart. Thankfully there are many items on the market in varying price ranges to help couples ease the distance. Think about purchasing one of these items to let your Little know that you’re always thinking of them. A little love gesture goes a very long way!

Bond Touch Bracelets (USD $108.00) These pair of bracelets are synced up to the Bond app in your smartphones. As long as your smartphone is close these bond bracelets will work and you can tap on the app to send your partner a “hug” across the world! Your partner’s bracelet will vibrate gently and light so they can feel your love.

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Lovebox Color and Photo ($130.00 USD) The Lovebox is a connected, messaging device that pairs with an app to go beyond regular communication and deliver special expressions of affection. Whether in the circle of love, family or friends, the Lovebox brings us closer together, even when distance separates us. Send a message, a photo, a drawing or an animation on the lovebox thanks to our application (downloadable for free on the App Store or the Play Store). When a message arrives on the Lovebox, its heart starts to turn. By opening the lid of the Lovebox, the recipient will be able to discover the surprise that appears on their screen. If he or she turns the heart of the Lovebox, it will send a virtual rain of hearts back to the sender’s mobile.

lovebox

Friendship Lamps (set of 2) (185.00 USD) Connect with family and friends no matter the distance. Friendship Lamps allow you to stay connected with loved ones all around the world. Endless amount of people can join your group so everyone stays connected. By touching your lamp then the other lamp will light up allowing them to know you are thinking of them, saying hello, or goodnight. Great for family, friends, long distance relationships, college students and more. Easily connect to Wi-Fi so you can stay connected from anywhere. Pick from over 250 color options to customize each lamp. Each person can have their own color or can make a game out of it.

lamps

Hug This Pillow Until You can Hug me Pillowcase ($19 USD) Very romantic and interesting gift for him and her! This bedding will decorate every bedroom and make it sweet, romantic and creative. Try it, you will love it! This beautiful pillowcase is made with love and is 100% handmade.

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Pocket Hug Token Long Distance Relationship Keepsake Stainless Steel Double Sided Inspirational Gift with PU Leather Keychain ($11 USD): Delicate combination: you will receive 1 piece of stainless steel pocket hug token and 1 piece of PU leather keychain, the package also comes with 1 bag for you to store them well and package them as gifts.

keychains

III. How to Have a Virtual Playdate with Your Little: 

If the pandemic taught us anything, it’s that Zoom, Skype, and Google Hangouts Video Chat can be used in a variety of ways. This includes having a virtual playdate in your Cg/l relationship! Being able to video chat with your Little is an incredible way to feel connected across the miles and you need only to get creative to date each other online. Here are a few ideas to get your brains bubbling for the next date:

  • Play Words With Friends together

IV. Conflict Resolution When You’re in an LDR: 

The final point I wanted to touch upon is how to navigate conflict when you’re in a long distance Cg/l relationship. Every person (little or otherwise) handles conflict differently. It’s important that you understand how your partner deals with conflict, disagreements, and stress. I urge you to sit down and discuss these things together. Don’t feel embarrassed to tell your partner what you do when an argument arises. (It’s better to discuss these things before an argument actually happens!). Remember to never threaten to cut off your relationship just because an argument happens. Work with your partner to talk things out. Being long distance you’ll need to invest more time talking when a problem occurs. Never, ever stonewall your partner or cease contacting them when an argument arises. No one likes to be put in that kind of position. Your partner needs you to be emotionally open and available to sort things out when a disagreement happens. (And it will happen!). But know that the arguments will pass and the good times will far outweigh the bad the more you work at your relationship together. The Captain and I are cheering you on every step of the way!

Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. If you enjoyed it, comment and let me know. I’d love to hear from you! Subscribe to the site below and I will see you back here for the next topic!

Much love,

~Penny x

2 comments

  1. […] Step 3: Consider formal training. Your Dominant is yearning to know how to best guide you, and you to serve them. Consider coming together to fill out a kinks, fetishes, and fantasies questionnaire (if you wish to share those things in your little space). Then, explore each one together. If your little space is non-sexual, slowly begin to explore fun play dates (virtually) together to experience little space together. […]

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