Good Morning Friends!
Today I want to talk about being Little and getting older. This post was inspired by a thread (on a little space forum I belong to), where the female-Little was feeling insecure and less than because she is 65 years old. She wondered if she could actually be little given that she is in her 60’s. I wanted to leap through the screen with pom pom’s in hand and yell, “YES YOU CAN!! YOU’VE GOT THIS!”. But alas, I can’t do that. So, here I am writing out my thoughts instead. There is a common misconception that after a certain age you cannot possibly be Little anymore. Your skin begins to sag. You get wrinkles on your face and your hair is dotted with streaks of silver. The body begins to show signs of maturity which goes against the image of youthfulness that we wish to portray as Littles, right? There’s no possible way that we can be both biologically older, (I prefer the term “seasoned”), and be Little, right? Wrong! In today’s post I want to smash the notion that you can’t be both seasoned and a Little, because you absolutely can! In fact, there are benefits to being older and an adult Little and I’m about to show you how. Are you ready? Then, let’s dive in!
I. Life Experience and Maturity Help A lot:
I am an adult Little. I am also 37 years old, a wife, and a mother to a beautiful teenage daughter. I am a proud submissive to my husband who is also my Daddy. I juggle it all because I simply love all of the parts of me, and I pray that you love all of the parts of you too, my friends. When you’re older you have more life experience. You’ve climbed the “Tree of Life” a little bit higher and thus you have a higher vantage point of how things really are. You understand how to balance your budget and know that things cost money and money can be hard to come by sometimes. You understand the give and take in a healthy relationship and can apply those principles to your dynamic. After a certain age you begin to care less about what others think and instead focus on giving and receiving joy. You have the maturity to not be bothered with superficial drama and impulsivity, but instead focus on moments that are impactful and create lasting memories.
As an older Little you bring to the table things that can only come with age and time. You don’t need to look “youthful” because being a Little isn’t about your looks. It’s about what you carry in your heart. Young or older you can be Little because it’s about who you are and how you feel inside. Have you ever wondered why the soul gravitates towards the familiar and nostalgic in the final years of our life? We yearn for those things that resonate with us in the deepest core of our being. In the final years of both sets of my grandparents’ lives I watched them return to the place where they grew up. While they were all vanilla people, they shared the similar habit of doing small things that made them feel most content at the center of who they were. Being Little is at the core of your being. It is something that you will carry with you for life. As you age your little space might evolve as well, and that’s perfectly okay. Focus on the things that bring you joy. Remind yourself that you have the maturity and understanding to have a deeper sense of self now, and in this mindset you understand that it’s healthy to embrace who you are and what you love. You don’t need to conform to anyone else or any trend in the community. Your little space should look like how you envision it to be.
II. Older Littles Are Less Demanding on Dominants Because They Also Juggle Responsibilities (and Money Too!):
When you’re an older Little and in a Cg/l relationship your time is often divided. You juggle work, family, and domestic chores. Sometimes you’ll have kids and sometimes not. Sometimes, as the Little you have a full-time job and sometimes not. But a common theme is that with older Littles there is a deeper understanding of all of the responsibilities that are flowing in their life, and as such they are less demanding of time from their Dominant. They aren’t as impulsive or quick-tempered because they are often busy as can be, too! (Note: I don’t want to come across as someone judging younger Littles or saying that they don’t work because this isn’t the case at all. I simply want to highlight that the older you get, the more responsibilities you usually have). Older Littles also have to contend with other responsibilities that help them be less demanding on their Dominants. They might have aging parents to care for, and life insurance plans to set up. They might have a mortgage to pay and retirement plans to put in place.
Yet, while the older little has so much to juggle there is a beauty in being able to regress and balance all of the life responsibilities. We savor the time with our Dominant because we know time is precious and few. We soak up every special date because we have seen the fragility of life and how fleeting it can be. We surrender power (on varying levels) because after a certain age we understand more deeply the give and take in making a relationship work. We see the dollar signs behind rewards for a task done and demand less of them so as to not stress our Dominant or their money. There is a quiet sense of peace in being an older Little, and so if you’re older (like me), then I encourage you to life up your chin and stand proud. We can provide just as much joy, peace, happiness, love, and encouragement to our Dominant as anyone else can. You are no less worthy of a lasting Cg/l relationship simply because you’re older. You have gifts to bring to a Cg/l relationship that only time and life experience can give.
III. Be Open to Making Changes for Aging Modifications:
The last point I’d like to touch upon is that if your Little is older you might need to make some modifications in your Cg/l relationship simply because they are older, and you know what? That’s okay! Let me tell you, at 37 years old I have no desire to get down on the floor and play with toys. My knees are the knees that have chased babies and carried groceries up apartment stairs for years, and honey, the last thing I want to do is to get down on the floor where it’s uncomfortable and cold! (Older people, can you relate? 😉 ). Talk to your seasoned Little and ask them if they need any modifications to make their little space more comfortable. Consider making a few changes to aid their ability to regress:
- If you like a higher level of protocol but floor positions are difficult, consider getting them a kneeling chair to sit on next to you (the Dominant) so that they are comfortable but still low to the floor.
- Try playing with your Little on the bed! They can be cozy while still regressing and playing with toys.
- Watch programs that make them feel tiny and small. Your seasoned Little might be drawn to things from their own childhood and that’s perfectly fine! Cater to the things that make them feel young at heart. (Personally I love watching “I Love Lucy” with my Daddy 🙂 ).
- If your Little needs more stretchy or baggy clothing, consider having them wear clothing that makes them feel Little as opposed to traditional lifestyle clothing. (If they do like wearing onesies but need a comfortable elastic line around the arms and thighs, Lil kink boutique is a fabulous company that offers onesies that are extremely comfortable!).
- Being an older Little gives you a lot of life experience and maturity. Both are assets and valuable benefits to bring to any Cg/l relationship. Be proud of who you are.
- Being Little is all about how you feel inside so you can be Little your whole life.
- Being an older Little also lends itself to being less demanding on a Dominant because often times older Littles have families, jobs, and responsibilities to juggle. They also (usually) know how to manage their money well too.
- Dominants of older littles should be open to making changes (as needed) to ensure their littles comfort and ease to regress. You can still do so many traditional lifestyle things with older littles. Just modify things as needed and you’re good to go!
Alright my friends, that’s it from me for this post. I hope you enjoyed it. If you did, hit that like button and let me know. Smash that follow button if you’re new around here, and I will see you back here for the next topic!